One of the many questions I get when I'm out at a speaking engagement is, "What kind of bird do you think I should get?"
I cringe on that question just a little bit. I am very happy they ask before just doing, don't get me wrong. But the very question reveals a bad start to a situation. This person hasn't taken a good hard look at their life, their available time, their habits, or tendencies. It's who WE are that really matters when choosing a parrot. My answer to the aforementioned questions is normally, "What kind of life do you live now?"
Then the answer I receive to that question is normally, "Well, I didn't think of it that way. I was thinking I wanted a bird that doesn't bite, will learn to talk and do tricks and go places with me!"
"OH!", I say. "Well that first bit is impossible."
I may be preaching to the choir at this point, so please consider sharing this with those you know who are parrot curious and considering the idea of adding a feather baby. This is important. Know thyself. Know thyself as you are RIGHT NOW. As your home and family is RIGHT NOW. Do not romanticize what "it would be like". Because it never is. It will be what it is and what you are RIGHT NOW, but with a parrot. Be honest with yourself. If you are always rushed for time, if you are a type A personality prone to control issues and always striving. If you see life as a field to do career on; Get a houseplant.
Seriously. You are who you are and getting a parrot won't change that. Be honest with yourself. We are all different and have our own ways and it's not a judgment call I am making here. It's a request to realize a parrot does NOT do well under certain situations with certain personality types.
I've got a client who owns a grey. He is a very controlling personality, very certain about his opinion. He shoves his hands under the bird's belly quickly and demands, Step Up! He moves too fast. Greys do not do well with that at all. Greys are thinkers and tinkerers. They need time to transition and consider what you are considering. This client has a biting problem. And it's HIS problem. Not the Grey's. We are still working on his habits, for the Grey's sake. He loves
that bird, yet really doesn't see his personality being the 99% fix. Know thyself.
If you are considering creating a flock, please consider what you already have in place as far as immovable objects of habits and routines. If you are a hostess who loves having parties and friends over all the time, consider that you surely won't stop that once a parrot is part of the equation. Know Thyself.
If you are a workaholic and given to long hours at the office and a few more into the night. Consider that carefully. Know Thyself. You are not getting a pet. You are choosing a LifeStyle addition. Things will change and things will change well, or not so well, depending on how honest you are with yourself.
Parrots are not disposable, they do not transition well when flock rejection occurs. In the wild flock rejection is tantamount to death and loss. Do not make this type of decision with a light air. These are not hamsters. Know Thyself.
A parrot can change, modify, accept and grow into most anything YOU change, modify, accept and grow into WITH him/her. You choose a parrot that fits who you and your life are NOW, and changes are no longer a problem. He's part of a flock. When a parrot feels safe, secure and part of the group, group changes are a simple thing. IF you get a parrot with a romantic idea of changing to meet that bird's requirements because you "just want" a cockatoo (for sake of example), I promise you the odds are VERY low, lottery ypte low, that you can change everything that needs to change to meet the needs of an inappropriate parrot lifestyle choice. Know yourself first, and I promise finding the perfect parrot companion will be easypeasy.
And when you are ready with full knowledge of yourself, to find that friend. Adopt. There are wonderful rescue birds and rescues ready and eager to train you. That's why we call then Rescue Birds.