I have 3 books I keep on my desk at all times. The Art of War, The Zen Doctrine of No-Mind and The Art of Happiness at Work. I have all three for one reason. Sincerity. These books remind me to be sincere in planning, living and working. Sincerity is the key to living a happy life. It is the key to creating a happy lifestyle and it is absolutely mandatory for creating a Successful Companion Parrot Lifestyle.
Parrots are sincere. Humans are not sincere. A parrot can never learn to be insincere, but a human can learn to be sincere. So you see it's up to us to make this happen. And why wouldn't we want to be sincere? Why wouldn't we want to be sincerely happy? It's a very simple process, it only gets complicated when you allow the chatter of the world to lie to you. Deep thoughts, but you need deep thoughts to make big strides.
A parrot will sincerely want to chew a couch. We react with an insincere question, "Why are you chewing the couch!" As if we are expecting our companion to offer an explanation to their attempts at chewing our couch! We know better. We also know that question is what attorneys call "leading". There is no why with parrots, not human whys anyway. They are not misbehaving. They are not being a bad parrot. They most certainly are not being insincere about this attempt. Our parrots are chewing on items in their environment because they can, and because they must and because that is what parrots do. They chew on all things interesting in their environments. And they are sincere about doing it. It is our attempt at applying a human cause and affect to that chewing that is the insincerity in the room. And it's our attempt at putting a human wrapper on a parrot piece of logic that will lead to miscommunication and unreasonable expectations. Insincerity creates unreasonable expectations.
The sincere reaction to a parrot chewing on a couch is simply walking over to our companion, requesting a step up with a simple instruction. "Be good." Follow this by placing our sincere parrot on a location of better choice. Their cage top with a chew or foraging toy waiting for them there. And finally sincerely letting them know they are good, you are pleased and here is where you both can share a moment.
Sincerity is simple. Human rationalization and debate just mucks up the works. Our parrots sincerely do not want to "challenge" us, or "test us" or proactively "push our buttons". That is a human wrapper of insincerity. Our companions want what they want because they can. And if we continue to insincerely approach these moments they will quickly assimilate the interaction as a result. And if the result meets their sincere wants, well then you will be peeling your parrot off your window blinds many times a day.
It is not easy to be a sincere human in this world. But we must make this a new character trait not only for our own success but for a sincere result in the relationships with our parrots and family members. You may have a companion parrot that wants nothing to do with a human in your home. At least that is how things seem. But whether there is interaction with the person or no, that person sincerely affects your companion parrot. And I will venture to say that parrot's rejection sincerely affects the human. Nobody enjoys being rejected. Every parrot and every person in a home affects the flock mentality no matter the amount of interaction. I've helped many a flock by simply pointing out the individual in the room that seems least impactful to the whole. You can have 2 companion parrots in the same home that never really interact at all. And yet their simple presence sincerely means something to each other. The same can be said with the humans in the room. The emotional health and contentment of the human(s) in the room directly affect the companion parrots in the room.
Insincerity is a weed really. We aren't born insincere. If anything we are all born blunt as butter knives honest. You learn to hide truths with seeds of experiences. You learn to fabricate ideas, reasons and methods by watching others grow their own insincerity. And over time we forget the simplest of things. Being happy is very difficult when we are busy wanting more stuff, comparing our lives to others, realizing our teeth aren't as white as they could be, and generally spending time insincerely building reasons why we are not measuring up to an insincere ruler. I call it First World Disease. If you access advertising, you are mainlining insincerity. Period. I know, I worked in advertising. If you access provocative television programming you are mainlining insincerity. End of story.
To live sincerely is to live fully aware of simple truths. Our companion parrots simply want to be, and they simply want to be with us. We can muck that up pretty easy with complicated insincere attempts at being like, acting like or buying like the next parrot flock.
It is a sincere truth when I say any flock governed by a person of love, patience, sincerity and empathy is a successful flock. I don't have to look at your home. I do not have to take inventory of your food supply, toy supply, cages or schedule. Because love, patience, sincerity and empathy exist. And all good things follow from those qualities.
Here's the thing about a Successful Companion Parrot Lifestyle; you really need to be a successful person first. And by that I mean a sincere, happy, empathetic person. Forget behavior modification for your parrots, and consider that for yourself first. I do. I am happier for it, too. The best part of creating that successful lifestyle for your companion parrot are the affects produced for every one around you. Maybe we can all become kinder to each other. Maybe we can all realize the validity of all life, simply. Maybe we can forget our whitening toothpaste for a few minutes and think about helping our neighbor in need. That's where this success leads us. It leads us to sincere living.
Quite frankly, I think parrots could save the world.