Among humans there is one subject that we tend to avoid discussing, or do so with mixed emotions. That subject is the loss of a loved one. We don't want to think about it, or be reminded that our lives aren't under our control. Many, if not most who will be reading this post will have already or will someday experience the loss of a beloved companion Parrot. Regardless of what we tell ourselves we will never be ready when it happens. Whether we are forced to make that final act of love decision or it happens suddenly and unexpectedly the painful reality is loss and sorrow is the same.
As Companion Parrot parents we view our feathered friends as part of our family, some times as a substitute for a human child. The love and bond goes beyond a superficial level, and when that tie is broken through death the grief, the feelings of utter sorrow is very real. You must not allow others to belittle your feelings of loss. The death of your beloved companion is equal to the loss of a human. The pain, the tears, and the often accompanying depression is a natural and healthy reaction. It is often hard to come to terms with the loss of a Companion Parrot, especially when you have had to make that loving decision to end your friend's suffering from illness, injury or other condition. Feelings of guilt will attack your mind, the "what if's" and "could I's" take over your emotions.
Everyone who has ever lost a loved friend will empathize with the hurt and tears that take over your life at the beginning. The emptiness of the house, the missing contact calls, the friendly interactions, and the disruption of your daily routine are reminders everywhere that your friend is no longer with you. If you have a friend or companion who will listen to you're feelings, and share in your feelings of grief, it will help to open your heart to them. They will understand the tears, and sadness that fills your thoughts day and night. You must allow these feelings to come out, to be expressed. Holding in the grief only leads to more feelings of guilt or anger that you couldn't do more to save your friend, and could become over-whelming and out of control. There are bereavement groups online that share in these difficult times if you do not have anyone close to you who seems to understand. They are worth looking up if you need an outlet to express your feelings.
It can be easy at first to close your thoughts and feelings to ever sharing your life with another Companion Parrot. When the wound is new and fresh, it may not be the time to consider this but if you allow yourself whatever amount of time it takes to heal from your loss, you might find yourself beginning to think along these lines. If you are not certain you are ready for that new relationship volunteering at a local Rescue is a great way to help out the rescue, test your own thoughts and emotional stability in this area and bring you into contact with others who might understand and validate your personal journey to healing.
Healing from the loss of someone so close and dear to us is a journey. One we take step by step until one day we are once more able to look back and smile at all the great memories we have of our beloved Companion. To cherish our time we spent together and to open our hearts to sharing our lives with a new companion. There is no time line or date present when we will come to this place, but if we allow ourselves to grief our loss, one day we will arrive at this place where we know we can love again