It's happens to all of us at one time or another. We have just finished a rather detailed and lengthy dialogue and as we bring ourselves to conclusion, our eyes come to rest on the face of the listener and there in their eyes we see Our failure to communicate.
Many times a frustrated Companion Parrot parent is the direct result of a confused Companion Parrot. The problem lies in our human failure to communicate in direct, complete thoughts to our feathered friends. Humans communicate to one another in many diverse ways, using both physical and verbal languages to convey messages. The problems we face with our lack of communication with our Companion Parrots is based on our inability and misunderstanding of exactly how our Companions communicate to one another as well as to us.
When a person is in physical and emotional contact with someone else, be it human or a feathered or furred friend, a mutual, unspoken bond develops. This bond is most commonly observed among humans, however it extends into our communications with our feathered family also. The communication between the Parront and Companion Parrot is a mixture of eye contact, gestures, and subtle non-spoken communications that goes beyond the human language. We expect our Companions to instinctively know what is expected of them. When our Companion Parrot fails to respond correctly we begin to have second doubts on our ability to communicate.
By their nature, Companion Parrots are vocal, demonstrative and observant of their environment. They are born with the hard-wired ability to take in large volumes of information at one time. It is imperative to their survival in the wild. The Companion Parrots in our homes have the same abilities and instincts, and our lack of understanding in this area can lead to problems, with confusion, and stress. Our lack of ability to communicate our requests clearly and concisely to our Companions on their level, can become an obstacle to a happy, loving relationship.
Watching flocks of wild Parrots you will see that their social system is very organized. As individuals feed, others take up positions as watchful guardians, observing the environment for possible signs of danger from predators. It takes one alarm call to send an entire flock into the air. It's a matter of survival. When we attempt to communicate our wants to our Companion Parrots we must do so in a way they will quickly understand. The communication must be direct, clear and precise. If we want our Companion to step-up, then we must communicate this without any questioning or confusion. Parrots, like humans observe not only the verbal communication but the body language as well. We often ask our Companion to do something, such as to "step-up" verbally but our body language sends a mixed message often relating our fear of a possible bite. Humans often communicate non-verbally through eye contact, gesturing and posture. When we communicate to our Companions we need to pay attention not only to our words but these other forms of non-verbal communication. Many people have been severely bitten by their Companion Parrot when the Parrot has read their fears through eye contact and an aggressive body posture from their owner. This has occurred even while the Parront's verbal communication may have been gentle and reassuring.
If we encounter behavior problems with our Companion Parrots we need to stop and carefully reevaluate how we are relating to them. Are we sending them a mixed message? Are we unintentionally sending them a threatening or fearful message by our body language? Just as we communicate to other people through multiple facets of communication we also relate to our feathered Companions. When handling our Parrots we must take the time to observe our body language and make certain it communicates what we are saying.